During a first meeting, a few seconds are enough for your interlocutor to form an opinion. Here are five tips to give, from the first moments, a good self-image.
Whether at the beginning of a recruitment interview, a meeting with a client, an interview with a supervisor or even with an unknown person, numerous studies in behavioral science and psychology have shown that each of we makes an opinion of each other in only ten seconds.
Whether it is posture, clothing style or the first words spoken, we are victims of our prejudices and can not help judging. And even in spite of prolonged interaction with these people, our initial opinion will vary very little afterward.
The reason? We simply do not like to be wrong, even if tangible evidence tends to prove the opposite. Thus, the following five basic techniques will allow you to give a perfect first impression.
1. Be 100% focused at the meeting
Given the importance of the first encounter, you must be fully prepared to interact with others without being distracted by external events.
All your focus must be devoted to the other, even if your phone rings (do not take it out during the exchange to answer messages) or if there is a lot of noise. The goal is indeed to give value at the time you share with each other, create a bubble where you will feel comfortable to trade.
2. Master your body language
Your body language, gestures, facial expressions or posture are all messages that reflect your state of mind. So, always greet the person warmly, without a priori, and keep an attitude open to exchange, that is to say with arms in front of you along the body (never crossed at the level of your chest which is a sign of protection, or even rejection).
Also, establish good eye contact while taking care nevertheless to fix the right person in the eyes continuously. Do not talk too close to the other’s face; it might make him uncomfortable and hold yourself upright, a charismatic posture that returns self-confidence.
3. Remembering Forenames
The majority of leaders have a great ability to remember first names because they know that it puts them in a position of power to distribute speech, to challenge the various interlocutors or even to mention details in their regard.
Each of us likes to be called by his first name (pronounced correctly) during a conversation. So make sure to remember the first names and if you did not hear them at the beginning of the exchange, do not hesitate to ask them to continue the exchange with more ease politely.
4. The power of listening
When we interact with others, we all hope to be listened to attentively, simply because we like to share our professional projects or our more personal experiences. Listening is thus a characteristic feature of people with strong emotional intelligence who always seek to dig the words they hear to learn more.
To know what animates the people met, their passions, but also what irritates them, is the assurance of a lively and exciting conversation. Ask open-ended questions (the answer to which is not “yes” or “no”) and re-start on barely touched subjects.
5. Talk about what you’re interested in
Conducting a fascinating conversation requires that you evoke things that you value or else you will soon lose interest in the exchange and cut short. Talk about what you’re passionate about because your best weapon to score minds will be your enthusiasm … a contagious attitude!
In more formal meetings, do not hesitate to ask about the upstream person to ask him the right questions when the time comes. Today, with social networks, you can determine your past experiences and thus maximize the possibility of finding a common topic on which you are going to have a lot to say.